Tease Tips

Tease Tips – Lessons in life, love and the art of tease

By Michelle L’amour

You’ve got it! Now flaunt it!

This is a very interesting time we are living in. We are getting stronger by the day and yet, there is still so much work to do! We are getting mixed messages through the media, and I think it’s time we started paying attention to the healthy message of body positivity.

We are all different shapes and sizes. And thank goodness! How boring would it be if we were all the same? Imagine a dinner with friends and everything on the table was the same color, shape and taste? Snooze.

The message of body positivity is out there but it’s getting clouded. We are told to be confident and beautiful, but the same people who are telling us to be confident are then making some remark about their boobs not being big enough in the very next breath! I’ve seen it time and time again on shows like “The View” & “Rachel Ray” (Yes, I’m a showgirl and I keep night hours).  How confusing for an onlooker. If we’re going to talk the talk, we also need to walk the walk. We all know that walking is the hardest part.

Here’s what I know: It’s hard being a woman. I have struggled with lasting self- confidence and negative self talk for a long time. I say “lasting self-confidence” because my opinion about myself would rise and fall in direct proportion to my waist size, the number of likes on a post, the amount of money I had or the gigs I booked. That does not make me proud to admit that, but I’m doing so because I know there are more of you out there just like me.

Just because I take my clothes off for a living doesn’t necessarily mean that my confidence is off the charts. It’s getting there though through the efforts of monitoring my self-talk and also weaning myself off of bad influences. I don’t know about you, but a few moments on Instagram and FB can really take a toll on my mood. So, I try to limit myself. I get in, I get out. I like a few things at the top of the page and that’s it!

I’ve realized that I’ve always been the type that believes more in others than myself. I’ve had a little bit of a blind spot when it came down to self-reflection. I think that’s a very common situation for most people. It’s hard to accurately access yourself and we can easily believe the negative around us, rather than the positive. Why? I don’t know. When I figure that out, I’ll write another post!

Now, the saying usually goes ‘IF you’ve got it, flaunt it,’ but I’m thinking that you’ve already got it. There are no ‘ifs,’ ‘ands’, or ‘buts’ (unless they’re BUTTS) about it! The trick is to teach your body to move in ways that exude confidence. Sit up straight. Walk with your head up. Let your hips sway. These are eye-catching behaviors. Eventually, the physical attributes of confidence will internalize. It’s like that famous line from Boiler Room: “Act as if…”

If you work on the physical projection of confidence in conjunction with a healthy internal practice of self love and compassion, you will begin to transform. Rest assured that all the pieces you need for this are already there. You’ve got it all! No need to wait. I don’t want you saying, ‘Well, I’ll do this after I answer this email,’ or ‘I’ll get started after I’m done taking care of everyone else’ or ‘I can’t do this until I have my eyelash extensions.’ No darling, the time is now.
A confident woman is unstoppable and devastatingly sexy. Happy flaunting!


  • Mitzi Vukelic

    I agree , practicing the physical attributes of confidence ( attitude) can lead to major overall self-esteem. Thanks for sharing it !

  • Eva D’Luscious

    Love this, so true on many levels!

  • Roni0467

    Awesome freakin’ Post! Thank you! Never let the opinions of others dictate how you feel about yourself. Some people can’t deal with the awesomeness that we are, some people can’t handle the bright light that shines from us, and rather than swim around in our Positivity and awesomeness, they TRY and make us think something is Wrong with us, when it’s NOT us, it’s them! Enjoy your Colorful self and flaunt it honey! Period!!!!

  • Mimi

    Thanks for the inspiration!!

  • RobertRays

    Accurate assessment, indeed: perhaps because I’m a man, I found it hard, even painful! to believe Michelle L’Amour could possibly lack confidence or self-esteem. What? This Siren of the Stage hasn’t got a huge narcissistic ego from her own sheer beauty, brains, talent and supreme ultrasexiness?! Something’s wrong with the universe. One of the most strikingly beautiful women I’ve ever known watched some great Michelle videos and was absolutely wowed — especially by the confidence she saw!

    It’s been the tragedy of civilization, always, that people disagree for seemingly unexplainable reasons; as we know from our current politics, things as obvious as the nose on someone’s face elicit wildly different opiniokns, even with matters of cold fact. There is no accounting for taste, and that’s ALL IT IS when it comes to the performing arts.

    Don’t ever let it get you down: listen to your fans, especially those who’ve been adoring you for years. We don’t do it for no reason, and we are not blind. 😁