Tease Tips – Lessons in life, love and the art of tease

By Michelle L’amour

Photo Credit – Dark Water

Sex is in the eyes, not the mouth.

One of the most common questions I get asked is ‘What do I do with my face?’ Excellent question. I’m glad you asked.

Being sexy is one of those hard to explain things but it’s one of those things that you recognize when you see it. That’s because ‘sexy’ is in the eye of the beholder, but one thing that is definitely true of ‘sexy’ is confidence. Unabashed confidence. How can you tell if someone is confident? Their posture? Yes. Their style? Yes. Their eyes? Hell, yes!

Eye contact is so important in the ways of seduction. It displays that confidence I was talking about, but also projects intention. Intention in the tease is a must. You have to know what you’re trying to convey and it all starts with the eyes. Do you want to convey aggression, cuteness, haughtiness, sex pot? All important questions to answer when you consider what you might want to do with your face.

Very often, when I see people try to convey ‘sexy’, they pull their cheeks in and purse their lips. Ya know, the duck face. Darlings, this isn’t sexy. Stop it. I think this is influenced by the angry supermodel look with impossibly high cheekbones. The other things those super models have are eyes! Their gaze is intense. Impenetrable. This is what we’re looking for.

The other thing I see is people pulling their face. The type of ‘ohhhh’ and ‘ahhhh’ face as if they were watching fireworks. This comes across as disingenuous. It CAN be cute when you do it at opportune moments, but when it’s an entire act filled with face pulling, it can look a little ‘cheerleader’.

Now, your job is to go to the mirror and think about something sexy. Look at your eyes. Get up close. Notice how they react. Don’t try to move any other part of your face. Just focus on the eyes. Hold this expression. Add breath and movement to it. There is a fine line between sex face, anger face and bored face. That line is intention. Carry that with you in those moments on stage and the moments that follow.